Ups and downs of raiding
Sep. 20th, 2008 12:48 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
alpharaposaThis is not a post about the mechanics of raiding in World of Warcraft. This is a post about drama.
So, I'm leading the raid. I get to herd the cats and divvy the loot for the night. I looked over our roster so far this morning, and found that we were one person short.
And someone volunteered. Somebody I dislike.
That by itself wouldn't have been so bad, because I could have sucked it up and simply been polite to them and tried to ignore their habits that make me dislike them. The problem was that![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
anher also didn't like them... and had good reason not to. This person - call him S - had several times enriched his character at anher's character's expense.
And those times when I was around, I had counseled patience because I didn't want to be the bad guy. I wanted to be fair to the guy; maybe with good examples he'd grow up a bit.
So, since this was a last minute looking for somebody to fill the slot, I tried to ask S to step aside so that somebody else who'd not gotten a chance to get big loots could come. (Also somebody that I enjoy grouping with, let's be honest.) He protested that he'd asked and signed up and everything, and would not step aside. I would have to tell him no, or let him come.
anher said that, if S came along, he's step aside and so there was room for the other person to come.
So, I could choose between raiding with my husband, or raiding with somebody I dislike grouping with. And not a guild officer in sight.
With 5 minutes until the first fight of the evening, I told S that I wasn't taking him. He left the guild a few minutes later, and it turns out that one of the guild officers was lurking on an alt and asked what was up. I told him it was probably my fault, but we couldn't get into details because there was a raid scheduled. Under no circumstances did I want to ruin a raid over personal drama.
So, that's kind of hanging over my head. If all I had been worried about was being fair, then I was given an out that would have been, at least, fair. I wasn't. I wanted to have fun. I might have to pay for that. We'll see. There's still the voice in the back of my head saying that if it were my guild, S would've been gone after the first time he asked to come questing and then started looting stuff other people needed.
(Shoulda mentioned the problems with S sooner to one of the guild officers, really shoulda.)
The raid itself was great fun. It was my first time tanking a raid EVAR. I never got to, even in the pre-expansion days when I raided on my alliance paladin. I died lots, but I've never laughed so much in a raid. We did the usual stretch we tend to, then stayed on a while longer to do a couple more bosses. All in all, a successful run.
So, I'm leading the raid. I get to herd the cats and divvy the loot for the night. I looked over our roster so far this morning, and found that we were one person short.
And someone volunteered. Somebody I dislike.
That by itself wouldn't have been so bad, because I could have sucked it up and simply been polite to them and tried to ignore their habits that make me dislike them. The problem was that
anher also didn't like them... and had good reason not to. This person - call him S - had several times enriched his character at anher's character's expense.And those times when I was around, I had counseled patience because I didn't want to be the bad guy. I wanted to be fair to the guy; maybe with good examples he'd grow up a bit.
So, since this was a last minute looking for somebody to fill the slot, I tried to ask S to step aside so that somebody else who'd not gotten a chance to get big loots could come. (Also somebody that I enjoy grouping with, let's be honest.) He protested that he'd asked and signed up and everything, and would not step aside. I would have to tell him no, or let him come.
anher said that, if S came along, he's step aside and so there was room for the other person to come.So, I could choose between raiding with my husband, or raiding with somebody I dislike grouping with. And not a guild officer in sight.
With 5 minutes until the first fight of the evening, I told S that I wasn't taking him. He left the guild a few minutes later, and it turns out that one of the guild officers was lurking on an alt and asked what was up. I told him it was probably my fault, but we couldn't get into details because there was a raid scheduled. Under no circumstances did I want to ruin a raid over personal drama.
So, that's kind of hanging over my head. If all I had been worried about was being fair, then I was given an out that would have been, at least, fair. I wasn't. I wanted to have fun. I might have to pay for that. We'll see. There's still the voice in the back of my head saying that if it were my guild, S would've been gone after the first time he asked to come questing and then started looting stuff other people needed.
(Shoulda mentioned the problems with S sooner to one of the guild officers, really shoulda.)
The raid itself was great fun. It was my first time tanking a raid EVAR. I never got to, even in the pre-expansion days when I raided on my alliance paladin. I died lots, but I've never laughed so much in a raid. We did the usual stretch we tend to, then stayed on a while longer to do a couple more bosses. All in all, a successful run.
