The only form of birth control that always prevents a woman from getting pregnant is surgery, which is risky, drastic, and final. The most effective temporary forms are medically contraindicated for some women and carry some risks for every woman. All forms of birth control have risks and side-effects.

And pregnancy is not risk-free either. All our best medical care can't eliminate the possibility that if things go wrong, the woman could die. It is not fair to characterize the risks a woman takes when bringing a pregnancy to term as nothing but "inconvenience". Medical procedures with much lower risks require a patient to be informed of the risks and to sign an informed consent document.

I wanted my child, very much. For me, taking those risks was a gift of love, as I believe it was for you. In an ideal world, all pregnancies would be like that.

Of course, in an ideal world, all sex would be consensual, an act of love (or at least good will) between people who come together as equals.